lady's nite out...oct10

lockesladyness · Date: Oct 9, 2007

lady's nite out...oct10

lockesladyness · Date: Oct 9, 2007

time to go...see you come morning!!

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

bye LL

i hope you have another good night at work!

stay warm!

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

why must i have nothing in common with the guy that i like? why can we never find anything to talk about? why is it so hard for me to think of anything to say to him?

and most importantly: why am i feeling more and more like all i ever had was a crush on him?

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

LionQueen · It Doesn't Matter Who We Were Before ...

KateisLost wrote:

why must i have nothing in common with the guy that i like? why can we never find anything to talk about? why is it so hard for me to think of anything to say to him?

and most importantly: why am i feeling more and more like all i ever had was a crush on him?

H,, ... what happened??

hrslvr_paints · Date: Oct 9, 2007

Kate, what happened?

LionQueen · It Doesn't Matter Who We Were Before ...

I dare say you must have some thigns in common, otherwise what would be the point of hanging out?

Sir Snootch · "Gamers don't sleep. They just nap between levels."

Hey everyone. I got called in for a OT shift tonight. So I'll be around for a while.
BTW Kate I must agree with Lion. You spent a good deal of time with him, and alway had fun right? Well If that is the cae then the thing that's getting in the way (IMO) is that you're trying to hard to go forward maybe? Just let things fall where they may. You know he's interested in you, and vice versa so don't try so hard. Just let it happen.

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

LionQueen wrote:

KateisLost wrote:

why must i have nothing in common with the guy that i like? why can we never find anything to talk about? why is it so hard for me to think of anything to say to him?

and most importantly: why am i feeling more and more like all i ever had was a crush on him?

H,, ... what happened??

what happened? nothing really, i have just been thinking. i talked to Jesse a few nights ago and it seems like we never have anything to talk to eachother about, our conversations are always so forced and awkward hmm we have nothing in common either! we don't watch the same movies or listen to the same music. we just never have anything to talk about hmm

LionQueen · It Doesn't Matter Who We Were Before ...

It took me a while, but I finally learned that rejection by a guy doesn't have anything to do with me. It doesn't mean I'm good or bad or flawed or anything.

It's gonna sound a bit strange but in a weird sort of way I think of it as shopping for clothes. I have to pick the stuff that's made for me. If I put somethign back on the rack, it doesn't mean it's a horrible outfit. It means it wasn't made for me. For my type or preference.

I've learned to deal with that kind of rejection alot better now.

And then, those wonderful fuzzy feelings are so much fun and feel so good, but they can also ruin a good freindship. It is so much better to let freindship run it's course and if it runs in the direction of romance then awesome, but if it goes on the course of freindship, you can't make it happen or force it.

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

Sir Snootch wrote:

Hey everyone. I got called in for a OT shift tonight. So I'll be around for a while.
BTW Kate I must agree with Lion. You spent a good deal of time with him, and alway had fun right? Well If that is the cae then the thing that's getting in the way (IMO) is that you're trying to hard to go forward maybe? Just let things fall where they may. You know he's interested in you, and vice versa so don't try so hard. Just let it happen.

hey Snootch

yes, i do have a good time hanging out with him but i just don't feel like i can be myself around him. i don't want to say why because i am afraid i might offend someone here

LionQueen · It Doesn't Matter Who We Were Before ...

1. Kate, breaks in conversation are perfectly normal. It's nice just to knoew the person is there:)

2. Jesse qrote you a sweet letter telling you how he values your freindship.

3. Are you getting close to your *special* day? Ha! I sometimes get a little depressed and start thinking about stuff that helps me stay that way.

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

LionQueen wrote:

It took me a while, but I finally learned that rejection by a guy doesn't have anything to do with me. It doesn't mean I'm good or bad or flawed or anything.

It's gonna sound a bit strange but in a weird sort of way I think of it as shopping for clothes. I have to pick the stuff that's made for me. If I put somethign back on the rack, it doesn't mean it's a horrible outfit. It means it wasn't made for me. For my type or preference.

I've learned to deal with that kind of rejection alot better now.

And then, those wonderful fuzzy feelings are so much fun and feel so good, but they can also ruin a good freindship. It is so much better to let freindship run it's course and if it runs in the direction of romance then awesome, but if it goes on the course of freindship, you can't make it happen or force it.

that is a good way to think about things Lion

Sir Snootch · "Gamers don't sleep. They just nap between levels."

Oops sorry. Got caught up in something again.

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

LionQueen wrote:

1. Kate, breaks in conversation are perfectly normal. It's nice just to knoew the person is there:)

2. Jesse qrote you a sweet letter telling you how he values your freindship.

3. Are you getting close to your *special* day? Ha! I sometimes get a little depressed and start thinking about stuff that helps me stay that way.

1. it has always been hard to talk to him though, at least on the phone, in person we can talk to eachother better

2. the letter was very sweet but one thing that i didn't tell you guys was that it also implied that he loves me, and i really don't want that because i know i don't love him, i might never love him, and i really don't want to him to get hurt.

3. i really don't want to be depressed, i just want to figure out how i feel about Jesse, if i just want to be friends with him or something more

LionQueen · It Doesn't Matter Who We Were Before ...

KateisLost wrote:

Sir Snootch wrote:

Hey everyone. I got called in for a OT shift tonight. So I'll be around for a while.
BTW Kate I must agree with Lion. You spent a good deal of time with him, and alway had fun right? Well If that is the cae then the thing that's getting in the way (IMO) is that you're trying to hard to go forward maybe? Just let things fall where they may. You know he's interested in you, and vice versa so don't try so hard. Just let it happen.

hey Snootch

yes, i do have a good time hanging out with him but i just don't feel like i can be myself around him. i don't want to say why because i am afraid i might offend someone here

Now, here's the deal:) It is completely normal and very common for a person to want to present a side of him/her that seems most agreeable and acceptable. That's just what most people do. For me, although I am prone to doing it, don't prefer it if I consciously think about it.

It is much more freeing and is better for everyone in the long run if you present yourself as you are. If you're rejected, at least you know that you were rejected for yourself and not the persona you put out there. Otherwise, the person really didn't get to see you, they saw a version of you that you thought was more acceptable.

It can be a bit of a fine line sometimes to decipher when it's a matter of caring so much about someone that you listen and sometimes start to enjoy something he/she likes that you didn't care about before, and actually acting like you're interested in order to win the person.

In my opinion, the fact that you don't have some things in common and that you're willing to admit that shows a wonderful quality in you! It shows that you're willing to be honest with yourself and with another person.

That is something so many people have such a difficult time doing and it only hurts them more later on. It's the cause of so many misunderstandings and with couple it;s the cause of many painful breakups and divorce in married couples.

I would have to say, Kate, that the fact that you have a concern over it shows a great deal of maturity. And you should be very very proud. aww

LionQueen · It Doesn't Matter Who We Were Before ...

KateisLost wrote:

1. it has always been hard to talk to him though, at least on the phone, in person we can talk to eachother better

2. the letter was very sweet but one thing that i didn't tell you guys was that it also implied that he loves me, and i really don't want that because i know i don't love him, i might never love him, and i really don't want to him to get hurt.

3. i really don't want to be depressed, i just want to figure out how i feel about Jesse, if i just want to be friends with him or something more

It is okay to feel that way. Did he want a response or did he ask for one? If so, then just be honest. If you are unsure, then say that. It is okay. :)

He will know where he stands and where your head is.

Sir Snootch · "Gamers don't sleep. They just nap between levels."

Also to add to Lion's comment. From what you've told us he's agoodguy. He should have no problem with you being honest about the way you feel. We've seen how giddy you get when you talk about him. The interest is there, and if he does in fact love you then he should be willing to let you get things straight in your own mind and heart without feeling put off by you wanting that.

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

LionQueen wrote:

KateisLost wrote:
hey Snootch

yes, i do have a good time hanging out with him but i just don't feel like i can be myself around him. i don't want to say why because i am afraid i might offend someone here

Now, here's the deal:) It is completely normal and very common for a person to want to present a side of him/her that seems most agreeable and acceptable. That's just what most people do. For me, although I am prone to doing it, don't prefer it if I consciously think about it.

It is much more freeing and is better for everyone in the long run if you present yourself as you are. If you're rejected, at least you know that you were rejected for yourself and not the persona you put out there. Otherwise, the person really didn't get to see you, they saw a version of you that you thought was more acceptable.

It can be a bit of a fine line sometimes to decipher when it's a matter of caring so much about someone that you listen and sometimes start to enjoy something he/she likes that you didn't care about before, and actually acting like you're interested in order to win the person.

In my opinion, the fact that you don't have some things in common and that you're willing to admit that shows a wonderful quality in you! It shows that you're willing to be honest with yourself and with another person.

That is something so many people have such a difficult time doing and it only hurts them more later on. It's the cause of so many misunderstandings and with couple it;s the cause of many painful breakups and divorce in married couples.

I would have to say, Kate, that the fact that you have a concern over it shows a great deal of maturity. And you should be very very proud.

Thank you Lion

it's just the only reason i am not fully myself around him is to avoid a possible conflict, i don't like conflicts and i try to avoid them as much as possible. i know i really should just face it and be myself but it is so hard!

LionQueen · It Doesn't Matter Who We Were Before ...

Sir Snootch wrote:

Also to add to Lion's comment. From what you've told us he's agoodguy. He should have no problem with you being honest about the way you feel. We've seen how giddy you get when you talk about him. The interest is there, and if he does in fact love you then he should be willing to let you get things straight in your own mind and heart without feeling put off by you wanting that.

I completely agree. aww

Island_Reigns · Yay Lost!!

Hi All!

Ah boy troubles! Kate, I know what you are going through. I am having some troubles with that at the moment.

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

Sir Snootch wrote:

Also to add to Lion's comment. From what you've told us he's agoodguy. He should have no problem with you being honest about the way you feel. We've seen how giddy you get when you talk about him. The interest is there, and if he does in fact love you then he should be willing to let you get things straight in your own mind and heart without feeling put off by you wanting that.

he is a good guy, a really good, really sweet guy. i just think that if he does love me he loves that person i am around him, not the real me, because i don't think that he knows the real me

Island_Reigns · Yay Lost!!

Paints, where did you go? There's no posting and running here! j/k

Sir Snootch · "Gamers don't sleep. They just nap between levels."

BTW, what did everyone think of Heroes last night? I didn't get in last night to talk about it.

KateisLost · Moonlight mod

Island_Reigns wrote:

Hi All!

Ah boy troubles! Kate, I know what you are going through. I am having some troubles with that at the moment.

hiya Island

nice see ya! you going through guy trouble too? bummer!

Island_Reigns · Yay Lost!!

Sir Snootch wrote:

BTW, what did everyone think of Heroes last night? I didn't get in last night to talk about it.

I haven't seen it. I still need to get caught up from last season actually.

Island_Reigns · Yay Lost!!

KateisLost wrote:

Island_Reigns wrote:

Hi All!

Ah boy troubles! Kate, I know what you are going through. I am having some troubles with that at the moment.

hiya Island nice see ya! you going through guy trouble too? bummer!

Good to see you too!

Yeah.

hrslvr_paints · Date: Oct 9, 2007

I didn't see Heroes! NO spoilers please!