I thought since this was a holiday, it deserved a holiday chat thread.

.......... or not.




-- Edited by LionQueen at 15:32, 2007-11-22

mmmmm, i just finished lunch my cousin got here early today so i took her down to the river in my truck she took a few pictures then we drove back to the house

Lunch was so good!!!!! i am so, so full!

hey Lion, IR and Kate!

I just woke up

FMA_AishaKitty wrote:

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thanks for the cute sparkly bear IR!

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You're welcome!

 

I don't know if anyones out there right now. But I've called everyone I can think of and now I'm just kind of sitting here not knowing what to do and feeling like a complete and total ass.

I couldn't find my mothers phone number. I haven't called her in a year. I haven't called anyone in my family for a year. On purpose. I wanted someone to make the effort to call me once. For someone to think about me.

I called my neice thinking I would ge the number from her. I find out she is divorced from her childhood swetheart with whom she shares one son.

My mother has a waarant out for her arrest because my brother, my neices father has forged all kinds of checks against her business. HER BUSINESS. He worked for the woman. I can't even BEGIN to tell you what all that woman has done and sacrificed for this man. He's her favorite and all her children and grandchildren have walked in his shadow for all of their lives.

And if this wasn't enough, my mother has had colon cancer for a year. A year.  The same year I got selfish and wanted to be thought about instead of thinking about other people. The year I choose to remain out of contact. 

I don't know when it was, but my neice hadn't heard from her in three weeks. She finally went to her apartment and found the place empty. My aunt and older cousin apparently went and with a couple of men had to break down the door and found my mother on the couch half dead in her own.  Apparently she'd been there a while and hadn't had access to the bathroom - I'll put it that way.  She had bruises all on her and where my brother knows, God only knows.
They won't let my neice see her. They say my mother was left abandoned. They say she doesn't want to see my neice. My neice is out of her mind, now I am too. I did at least explain why I'd bene out of contact for so long, because I was tired of the past 16 years being the one to call and keep in touch and I was hoping I would be missed and someone would finally call me for a change - but noone did.

I just .. I don't know what to think. I almost wrote her during Yom Kippur because that's the time of year when we're thinking about restoring relationships and stuff. I never sent that cd or poem.

The thing is, from everything my neice is telling me, she's just deteriorating. She's only 77 pounds.

I did tell my neice that every time I talked with my mother she was bragging about Tiffany and how well she treated her. I told my neice that I have always been proud of her for the way she's handled her life because she did a hell of a better job than me. I've always lived just short of being a wreck.

I'm sorry everyone. I just don't know what else to do right now. I just can't believe this. My brother just left her like that? What about her dignity?

I wasn't ready for this. My other brother has been at odds with her so when my neice tried to contact him, he didn't want to know anything. I can't say I blame him, he's lived in the shadow of his older and favorited brother his entire life. He knows and can admit about our family what most people won't.

But she is his mother. Just like she's mine.

I kinda wish someone was here.

it's thanksgiving...  we can keep things here for the nite.... i just giot home and turned on the computer...forgot how long it takes to get it goping... but happy holiday to all!!! hope everyone had agood time!!

get enough to eat kl??

If I had called and not stayed away I would have known and my niece didn't even realize I didn't know.

LionQueen wrote:

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Thanks LL and Kate. I'm just really upset.  I need to get my other brothers number from my niece though because I need to try to get him to see that my niece really needs him. It's her father that was lving with my mother and who deserted her wrote the checks an everything. My niece thinks her father poisened my mothers dog too. I just can't believe he could be that horrible.

But now that she's divorced, and my mothers brother and wife are shutting her out, she's alone. And she's been the one beside my mother all this time. My mother raised her after her father couldn't be responsible enough.

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your mother sounds like a very wonderful person and for this to happen to her is downright horrible. for her own son to do such a thing in unthinkable!

I am so sorry Lion that this happened

lockesladyness wrote:

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get enough to eat kl??

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yes, i got plenty to eat what about you?

LionQueen wrote:

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lockesladyness wrote:

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you were raised by your grandmother... your niece was raised by your mother... interesting family that you came from... hope things turn out okay for you and hope your mother gets better...if she can

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From what my niece told me, I don't think there's going to be a getting better and since they didn't call and let her know anything, they might likely not tell her if God forbid she passes.  I just went through this in 2000  I don't want to do it again. Not now.

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*hugs!!!*